I can haz clinch cover?So, now that you guys have met Scott, I thought I'd tell the story of how we met.
It was August of 1989, and we were both freshmen in college. Scott was single-mindedly chasing after my college dorm suite mate, Tammy. Tammy was having little to none of it. She'd left her high school boyfriend, Chuck, at home, and even though they were broken up (Scott assures me Tammy kissed him at some point), Tammy was definitely holding a candle for Chuck.
As for me? I had my own problems. My high school boyfriend, Mark, who I'd been dating for more than 2 years, and I had broken up. One afternoon, I was sitting on my bunk bed, crying and dejected, and in pops this boy. Young and cute and all kinds of Italian, he came in and said, "I'll bet if I kissed your neck, you'd feel better." So I let him. He was right. I did feel better. :) Soon we realized that when Scott came up to 3rd floor Wheeler (my dorm), he wasn't coming to visit Tammy, he was coming to visit me.
Here's the thing though, we never kissed, never took our friendship to the next level. Scott was the one who held my hand through break-ups with Mark, fights with friends, and many other relationships. And I did the same for him. But we never once hooked up. We were just friends. Best friends.
He was my "What the hell is wrong with you people?!" guy when I was dating a guy who was jerking me around. And he was my "Wow, you're acting like a psycho" guy when I got a little crazy about a boy. He helped me through a divorce, and a several unhealthy relationships. And I helped him through the trauma in his life.
And still, we were just friends.
All of that changed last year. Scott got divorced, and things changed for us. And both of us realize how lucky we are.
He is the love of my life, but more than that, he's my best friend - he has been for more than 20 years.
How lucky is that?!
24 comments:
Awww, what a wonderful story. Wishing you both 20 more.
Similar path for me and My Man....uh, although there was kissin'. There was much tap-dancing for about a year, and then we finally got over ourselves and made it official.
Friends-to-lovers truly is the best - in romance novels and real life. There's just less dithering and angst, I think. You can totally "be yourself" with that person and they won't think you're a freak. Well, more so than usual at any rate :)
Oh Wendy, I can assure you that Scott thinks I'm a total freak. But, he just so enjoys laughing at me. :)
But really, the best part is, all the bullshit is out of the way. We rarely fight, mostly because we know how to avoid the landmines, and if we do, we tend to be incredibly adult about it. Which is unusual for both of us. LOL!
AWWWWWWWWWWWWWW. Love that picture!
That is just wonderful Kati! I'm so happy for you!
I married my best friend and in a couple weeks we will celebrate 20 years of marriage. It doesn't get any better!
Awww. Kati, that is incredibly sweet and I'm so glad there was such a happy ending for you two after all those years.
Thanks for sharing. :)
What a great story, Kati. I love friends to lovers and you're living it, congratulations. :)
And I'm with KB - Great picture.
As I said to KB. I made him do a "clinch cover" pose with me. You'll note he didn't put down his cigarette to do so.
LOL! No, thanks for all the nice words you guys! I'm really lucky, he's ridiculously good to and for me.
Clinch covers LOVE them!! Totally cute photo. And I LOVE the way you met. Sort of like that best friends movie with Hugh Jackman and Ashley Judd...name esacapes me. Personally, I think Scott's a lucky guy, but then I'm quite fond of you.
Yeah, what Kati didn't mention is that I was TOTALLY getting the vibe from Tammy. She was throwing it at me like I was a monkey in a tree holding her purse. (That's my story, I'm sticking to it...)
We were totally each others' "go-to" person, especially for definitions and explanations about the opposite sex and translation of what our spouses/SO's were saying. (Except Kati's ex-husband, who was a douche of such epic proportions that we didn't speak for 2 years. I think he was intimidated by me).
It's true - we don't fight all that often. Actually, we never fight. We rarely have even disagreements. Mostly, as Kati said, it's because of a few things: 1. We have already covered all of the things that make each other nutty (eg: Kati hates "dumb blonde" jokes, I despise someone talking impolitely to restaurant servers). Not that either of us does those things, but you get what I'm saying. 2. Not only do we know where the land mines lay, we both acknowledge their existence and ACTIVELY avoid them. Some couples fight just for s-and-g's, I used to be in a relationship where that happened. 3. We are unafraid to call each other out on bullshit, especially when one or the other is trying to pick a fight. 4. We just fit. In every way, in all facets. When I get to see Kati, it's as if there is almost an audible "click" as if all in my life just fell into place at once. My bad days are washed away, my good days are magnified, and my great days are almost mind blowing, and the only difference is the addition of Kati.
I could wax poetic about the relationship further, but nah. You get the idea. She's my best friend, and I love her.
*s-and-g = shits and giggles
I think Scott needs to clone himself. *G*
*sniffle*
Thanks Baby. You're awesome.
And yes, my ex was a douche.
True story, after reading his post, I text Scott:
Me: I'm all teary now, thank you so much Baby. I love you.
Scott: I have no idea what you're talking about.
Me: Oh. Right. Sorry. Never mind.
LOL! That's my man.
LOL @ last comment.
What a sweet story..love it :)
That's so sweet! Thanks for sharing.
Ah Kati? Can I be you for a day?
What a wonderful love story! Scott and Kati, I wish you much love and happiness together for the rest of your lives.
My late dh and I were best friends to lovers to husband and wife. We had 26 wonderful years together and I cherish every memory we made. Friends to lovers really is the very best!
Awww, I love your story! And being friends first is the best! I love that picture of y'all---priceless!!
Too cute! Congrats to you both. He's a lucky fella!
Thank you SO much Kati for sharing that story - it's beautiful. And if you don't mind me saying, it seems like...now is the right time :)
And I just read Scott's comment and now I'm all weepy (but in a completely good way :)
I wish you both lots of joy and happiness together!
Oh wow and Scott's comment totally made me swoon.
Great story Kati, and congrats!
<3! This is a beautiful story Kati! I'm so happy for ya :) And more than just a little jealous too LOL. Sounds like something right out of a romance novel, only better.
Can I just say I LOVE ROMANCE!
Real life love stories are the best!! Thanks for sharing yours. It's very sweet and I wish you both many more years together! xo
LOL @ Kati's last comment! ^_^
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