So, it's Valentine's Day again. Honestly, because I'm single this "holiday" used to bug me a lot more than it does today. Really, I think Valentine's Day is what I'd call a "hallmark" holiday. A pretend one with no real purpose but to make the flower growers, chocolate sellers, and card manufacturers happy. Even when I was in a serious relationship I thought it was pretty stupid.Don't get me wrong, I love romance as much as the next girl. I love receiving flowers at work, I love being wooed. I'd prefer to have someone do it on a day other than this. It just seems stupid that there's this one day where guys are somehow supposed to be romantic. Really, it's a stretch for a lot of guys, and I've got to imagine that the pressure of trying to deliver on a prescribed day is tough. I just think that romance should go on with a couple all year. Not just on one day. And romance takes a lot of shapes.
I've always thought that my parents have a very romantic relationship. It was never unusual to walk into the kitchen and find them having a hug, and they pretty much never go anywhere without giving a goodbye peck. They've been married for 50 years, and are still able to keep the romance alive. My friend Megan got married in August, and my roomie commented to me on their wedding day, "Every woman deserves to be looked at the way Joe looks at Megan." You know, like she's the only and best thing that ever happened to him. Now, I realize with years and comfort, these things can fade. But my point is I think that designating one stupid day to force your man to do something "romantic" for you is silly. Don't you find it much more arousing to come home and find that he's cleaned up the house, or vacuumed, or put the kids to bed and fixed dinner? Just seems to me like it's the little stuff that reminds us that we're loved. Not a bunch of flowers that he "has" to send.
What about you? Are you a fan of Valentine's Day? What's your idea of romantic?
6 comments:
I'm not so much a fan. But I might feel sad if my beloved forgot it too. Hmm does that make me a hypocrite. And I'm not too good at getting him anything more than a card. Is that a double standard? Oh well. I look at it as a nice day to show someone you love them.
I love you Kati!
I love you too! Thanks!
Well, I hope you do something fun for V-Day.
Kati I totally agree!
But Happy Valentines Day anyways :o)
My husband and I aren't really Valentine people -- we make a point just to do thoughtful things for each other when we can, year round.
I have become really cynical toward Valentine's Day, I'll admit -- the constant jewelry ads, the flowers ... the message of romance just seems to be lost beneath the commercialism.
I've noticed that around the blogs, many people seem to be feeling the same way -- and I wonder if it's because we read so much romance that it's extra-apparent how false it feels? It seems that readers are constantly thinking about what constitutes romance, and what doesn't ... so when a day like Valentines comes around, there's a sense of "what's the big deal, and why just one day?"
Are you kidding?!?! I love this day. It's one time out of a possible three that I get a something special. Mostly because it's required but, hey, I'm not going to knit-pick.
The two most romantic things that happened to me today? My mom gave me a card :) And my oldest and dearest friend of 14 years sent me a text message saying- Happy Black Thursday Love You :)
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